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My wife and I had been having problems for
several months, perhaps more than a year. We seemed to be in a
part of our lives where pressures continually came from
unexpected directions one after another without letting up. In
the last year, she had been in an automobile accident, she was
determined to be permanently disabled from an occupational
injury and I had taken an early retirement package from the
company I worked for to start my own company.
We decided I should take the package because of the
yearís salary and medical coverage that was included and
because we felt that layoffs were imminent.
By the end of the year 2002, we were at
each other's throats nearly continuously. We had discussed joint
counseling but put it off Ė a big mistake. On December 1st,
2002 we had a very heated argument and I lost my temper and
shoved her against the refrigerator. She got mad and called the
police. I was arrested and taken away in handcuffs. All my
firearms were confiscated even though my wife told the arresting
officer that I had never threatened her at all let alone with
any weapon. So began our introduction to a corrupt, and I
suspect illegal, system that violates menís constitutional
At my preliminary hearing, a man accused of
attacking a teenager with a pitchfork over a drug dispute had
his bail set lower than mine. Another young adult that assaulted
a rival gang member in a holding cell in full view of police
officers was released on his own recognizance. The judge
determined that I could not be released on my own recognizance
and I was returned to jail.
The next time I came before a judge, I was
slapped with a 3-year restraining order where I could not
communicate with my wife in any form and was to stay at least
100 yards away from my house. This is the house I owned and
lived in for 25 years Ė my wife and I had been together for
about 4 years at the time. Keep in mind I have not been found
guilty of anything yet.
My wife finally bailed me out 4 days later.
We violated the restraining order and worked together to find an
attorney on the Web to help us. At this point we had realized
our mistakes and each of us had accepted the part we played in
getting ourselves in this mess. We now wanted to put it behind
us as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, the system staffed
with unprincipled corrupt attorneys, judges and prosecutors was
not in a mood to release us until they had a chance to loot some
of our wealth. These people work at their trade with all the
human compassion and sense of justice of the medieval torturers
of the Spanish Inquisition.
My wife attempted to speak to the charging
district attorney. The woman didnít want to talk to her. It
was evident from her bearing and contemptuous glare at the men
around her that she was a misandrist. My attorney (who appeared
to be non-confrontational) let this issue slide.
Another thing that we discovered was that
the police report was wrong on several points. Both my wife and
I contested the report as being false in several areas. In fact,
we showed with pictures that there was no way what was alleged
in the report could have happened in our kitchen. In addition,
there were several statements attributed to her in the report
that she claims she never said. Again, my cowardly attorney,
more concerned with his cash flow than my rights, let the issue
It was beginning to appear that I was being
charged with more than what was in the falsified police report.
It was as though, because of my male gender, that I was carrying
some form of original sin.
I was judged inherently guilty of whole panoplies of
undisclosed crimes, because I was a man.
I pleaded no contest and I was given 10
days jail time (with the option of a work furlough program) with
credit for time served, fined $390.00 and told to attend 52
weeks of a domestic nonviolence program. The work furlough
option had an associated cost of over $100 for administrative
work. The domestic nonviolence classes cost $900. We had spent
$1500.00 on my useless attorney. Total costs of our mistake were
around $2900.00. In retrospect, I should have taken more time to
find a good attorney and fought the charges.
I knew, from my newly acquired first hand
experience, that the system was flawed but I had no idea on the
extents of corruption. While participating in the domestic
nonviolence program, I met a man that was in jail at the time of
the alleged domestic violence incident.
His ex-girl friend lied about him because she found out
he had gone back to his old flame. He was still charged by the
district attorney. Another I met, who suffered from cerebral
palsy, was accused of throwing his 250 lb wife out the passenger
side of a Ford Bronco while driving. The man weighed around
160lbs, had mobility problems, the center consol of the Bronco
makes it virtually impossible to reach the passenger side door
and, finally, his wife admitted lying about the incident to the
DA and that she really jumped out of the Bronco because she was
mad at him. He was still charged! Yet another man pushed his
wife away while she was kicking a newly healed broken leg during
an argument and hurt her jaw. The wife admits she attacked first
and the man was still charged by the DA. All these cases are
generally pleaded no contest (as was mine). Most people do not
have the resources to fight back. In certain cases, the courts to
prevent him fighting back confiscate the financial resources of
the defendant. Moreover, when a man fights back his case is
usually heard near the end of the court day. Of course, he has
to be there when the court opens. This in effect maximizes the
time he has to spend to defend his case.
On the other hand, the domestic nonviolence
program makes an effort to brainwash the coerced participants on
the evils of being a man. Abuse is defined as basically anything
a man does that upsets a woman. The definition of abuse is so
low that virtually anything can be considered abuse.
But, a woman is not held accountable for
her actions. If she strikes first it is only because he Ė the
man -- made her do it somehow.
The program makes generous use of lies (95% of domestic
violence is male Ė there is no evidence to support this
statement and mountains of conflicting evidence) and
misrepresentations to support their conclusion that men are
Based on the above experiences and
additional reading I have done, I have become a fervent menís
rights activist. I believe that the rights of men are under an
assault championed by misandrists and supported by pandering
sycophantic celebrities and politicians. I am hoping that the line of menís rights products offered
will make the issue visible, promote menís activism and effect
the necessary changes.
M. E. Nel
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